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How to control expectations

Process Objective: To help you limit your expectations for people and things unless certain criteria is met. 
Life Coach: Keandre Curry (Contact me)

Step 1

YES/NO?
Do you believe in common courtesy? 
YES
Believing that people should be courteous the same way you are to them, is often a lofty standard. It's lofty, because most people will not commit to your expectation. Personally, that's frustrating, because you want to feel valued. Basically, it's pointless to have expectations for anyone, unless they've shown you that they can fulfill your expectations. More so, a verbal commitment is not the go-ahead to expect more of a person. 

Step 2

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STEP 2
Write down the Expectations Criteria. 
WRITING
On a piece of paper, write down the Expectations Criteria that should be considered before taking anyone serious. 
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  1. The communication (text and calls) is two-way. 
  2. Respectful 
  3. They care about me ( physically showing empathy and sympathy). 
  4. They support me, and guide me. 
  5. Quality time is consistent. 

Consider - The entire criteria should be met. 
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Step 3

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STEP 3
Alter or add to the Expectations Criteria (if needed).
THINKING
The Expectations Criteria may not fulfill all of the standards that you have. Feel free to add, remove, or replace any of the guidelines. Please make your criteria reasonable, as you don't want people to think they'll never be able to meet your needs. 
New Criteria
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New Criteria
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New Criteria
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Step 4 

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STEP 4
Control your expectations.
WRAP-UP
Many situations are the same: You like a person. You assume that they like you. You text and call the person, as much as you can. The person texts and calls you to the minimum. You get upset and send the person sentimental texts. The person calls you crazy and "out of place." 

Lets avoid those situations, by understanding who we are dealing with, and what terms you and the person are on. If the terms are not up to your standards, move on. You do have that choice. 
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