Relationships are meant to be forever. However, reality do change. In the beginning relationships are drama-free, everything is going great, until things are interrupted with infidelity; a relationships worst nightmare. Some of us are not used to sleeping alone, but we're used to having our own space. With relationships, that changes. You not only have to sleep next to your partner regardless if you're mad or not, but you have to live with your partner everyday, regardless if you're mad or not. Basically, in relationships you cannot run from problems anymore; they must be addressed, appropriately.
Appropriately meaning the right way. The world isn't perfect, therefore not all people make the right decisions in regards to protecting and reserving their relationship. Why not? Couples are caught in the stereotype that relationships aren't going to last, regardless of how strong the love is or how great things are going. Instead of couples embracing each others love and taking each day at a time, their worried about what the future holds. The reality of that mindset is that there is no future, simply because the focus is on who's the replacement rather than who's loving me right now. In all fairness, some relationships are not meant to be. Some of us we get into relationships because the person is sexy, rich or the sex is great and not because they treat us like we treat ourselves. Instead of evaluating a person by their personality, character or mentality, their being evaluated on temporary convenience; what they can do in the bed and how good they look.
Secondly, relationships are not what most people want, especially not young people. Young people usually have multiple sex partners and have never had any commitment to anyone. However, it's unjust to say that all young people think alike, or live the same lifestyle. Per say, I'm young too, and often have one to none sex partners. So for the record not all young people are immature and close-minded about relationships and love. With that said, when you get into a relationship knowing your intentions and mindset are negligent that says one thing: you want to have your cake and ice-cream, and eat it too. You cannot. Relationships are about giving up both the cake and ice-cream because neither can exist anymore. The life that you use to have is no longer what your life is going to be like in a relationship; which can be for better or worse. Usually what you input into the relationship is what you will get out of the relationship. However, reality do change.
Through the fussing and fighting, relationships do get challenging. However, it's not any reason to call it quits. You and your partner have to get to know each other, become accustomed to each other in ways that you haven't had to before. Why? The love for each other is growing, and the fear of losing one of the other is overwhelming. It's possible to love someone so much that you get tired of being around them. That's bad because infidelity becomes more likely to happen. It's wonderful to be around your partner, but give each other space; not too much or too little. That's probably easier said than done, but time management in a relationship is the third most important component; with the first two being trust and respect. Look at it like this: If you do not trust your partner, you will always want to be around him or her. Secondly, if you do not respect your partner and always in the small window of privacy that s/he has, then you are overstepping your boundary and tensions will arise.
Personal space is important, just not too much or too little.
Infidelity is defiantly a relationships worse nightmare because it's difficult to overcome. Unlike the arguments, name-calling, burnt clothes or the nights on the couch, forgiveness doesn't come without hesitation. When a person is cheated on, they've been betrayed and disrespectful. Regardless of how challenging a relationship becomes, mutual respect should be upheld. Even if you and your partner do not have sex anymore, you two are still in a relationship. Their is no cushion for infidelity. If the relationship is over, don't just say it to one another, make the move to end the relationship and go your separate ways. Now if the two of you want to try again, and make it work, then do it. This time the both of you need to give 100% into the relationship and compromise whatever it takes for the other. Simply, there is no other way it can work. Remaining neutral, forgiving the person you love after he or she betrayed you is challenging and heartbreaking. Therefore, it's understandable if you chose to part ways. After all, if they do it once, they'll do it again.