It's NEVER easy accepting the betrayal of someone you love. I tell people all the time that no matter how hard you try to avoid pain, it will always find a way to you. Whether you are a good person or the opposite of one, pain is just a part of our lives. Pain is so difficult to deal with because the effects are everlasting. If you can relate, pain have caused me to resent everything and everyone. It's like anytime you are hurt, you hate the world for it; Even though the world has nothing to do with the situation. That's not fair to the world or specifically your friends and family that actually care and love you, but resentment cause uncontrollable side effects.
I think what many of us fail to realize is that when we give our heart to someone, we risk ourselves to heartbreak. We fail to realize our own weaknesses when it comes to dealing with people in general. Also, we fail to realize that all great things have to come to an end, eventually. I think it's fair to say that it's unfair to resent giving your ex-lover a second chance. It's unfair to resent loaning a person who you knew wasn't your friend money. It's unfair to resent leaving the person who you loved, but was no good for you. Truthfully, we are all guilty of unfair resentment. The only way to learn is to live! The pain that we experience in our life will only make us stronger mentally, emotionally and wiser.
Live your life, but also learn from your life.
Like previously mentioned, pain is an component of your life that you can't run from. At some point in your life, you will experience heartbreak and other unfortunate events. The pain inflicted by those events will not be easy to deal with and confusing to understand, but just know you will be okay. Through the negativity of pain, there are lessons to be learned. It's up to you whether or not you take those lessons as your opportunities to grow; becoming stronger and wiser. You are human so of course you're going to take risks and make negligent choices, which is why resentment towards anyone or anything in your life is unfair.
The way I see it, you be completely aware of what you're getting into beforehand.
Remember Friedrich Nietzsche's quote, "I assess the power of a will by how much resistance, pain,
torture it endures and knows how to turn to its advantage,"? The advantage of pain cannot be foreseen. Your will to be resilient and not be a broken-hearted person surely will play out on its own (in your favor). In conclusion, our mistakes are to blame for some of the pain we endure but equally we are not. You nor I can make a person be loyal, honest and dependable for us like we are for them. At the end of the day, we have to be resilient and not allow pain to change who we are or what we want from life.