They always say “you never know what you had until its gone,” but in reality that's not always true. Sometimes we find ourselves falling in love with a person for the wrong reasons; for say money or
for sexual affairs. Although, neither of the two are permanent or will matter down the road. The components that matter can include honesty, trust, commitment, loyalty and understanding. Those are just some of the components that establish a relationship and maintain a foundation—not money, material things or sex. Just think: if it's short-term, what advantage or benefit does it give you long-term?
Further said, honesty must be mutually practiced. If your lover has to hide some of his actions behind your back, that's not honesty. If your lover only tells you things IF you ask, is not honesty. I'm a true believer of what's done in the dark will eventually come to light. And many times the truth is forefront of our eyes but we still ignore it. Why? It's difficult to accept the truth and feel like you're not worth being
told the truth to. Basically, honesty is the root of trust. Without trust, you are fighting for a relationship that won't last or simply just short-term.
Ask most people today if their ready to settle down and the answer may be somewhat close to, “I have so much going on right now.” As shady as that sounds, there are some people that aren't suited for a relationship. Also, there are people that have personal issues that must be confronted before anything. In contrary, I believe that if a person say they love you, and want you to be their for them long-term, they have to give you what you deserve—THE commitment. Everyday we just don't fall in love with just a random person. Undoubtedly it takes a special person to win your heart.
Showing appreciation to someone you love is not difficult. It's just one of those things that you have to want to do, to do it. When it comes to love I take no excuses. You either can show me that you love me or you don't. As you can notice I didn't say “can't”. A person who complains that it's hard to show you how much they love you is phony. Keep it real, when you LOVE a person, won't you do anything for him/her? The big misconception is that appreciation can only be shown through material things—that's false! The easiest way to show how you feel or what you believe in is through your actions.
The bottom line is sometimes you are better off by yourself. If a person cannot appreciate your self worth, you can do better. If a person complains or make excuses of why they can't show you what they talk, you can do better. If you're giving more than the person, you can do better. If you're not being recognized for being by the person's side through the thick and thin, you CAN DO BETTER. The move is yours to take.