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Sexuality through a definition is," the sexual habits and desires of a person [source]." From what I read, "...of a person," meaning our individual, personal desires. For some reason people find it in their interest to judge the sexual preference of others. I understand that being homosexual is not acceptable to everyone, but I do not understand why anyone should care who other people sleep with. If you haven't realized yet, your sexuality does not define you. Employers are not going to hire you because of your sexuality but based on your qualifications, your work ethic, your determination, your passion, your personality. We're living in the real world, you have the credentials or you don't.
What Heterosexuals are Saying
-The heterosexual people that were asked for this particular post had three main beliefs: One, they disagree with homosexuality because they are religious and view sexuality as sinful behavior two, homosexuals life their life the way they do just for attention and lastly, they feel that homosexuals are hypocrites as they "bully" those who express opposition to homosexuality.
What Homosexuals are Saying
-The homosexual people that were asked for this particular post had two beliefs: One, they (homosexuals) deserve equal rights because their human too. Two, they feel that heterosexuals are so stuck in their own personal beliefs that they miss great opportunities to experience diversity. One participant said, "If a straight person hear that I'm gay, they assume that I'm flamboyant. That's not true for all gay people. I'm masculine, like sports and all."
It's not my position to say who's right and who's right. However, I respect both sides' feelings on the sensitive topic. This post was not about creating a debate, more so a reality check to the fact that we as a society are judgmental towards each other. Whether it's regarding sexuality, race or gender, most of us live by stereotyped beliefs. It's time to grow from those stereotypes and see the world in black and white.
After reading both side beliefs and comments, all mankind deserve equal rights. If we all mind our own business, homosexuality wouldn't even be considered an issue--political or socially. In my opinion, we all are guilty of being judgmental in some way. The irony of that is neither you, they, or I is perfect. Like I always say, imperfection is what makes us beautiful. If a person does not have one flaw about them, I will not date them. Why? I realized that perfection comes with many forms of ugliness. After this post, take it upon yourself to appreciate diversity, experience it, and learn about lifestyles and cultures that you don't know much about or understand. Leave your beliefs at the door for once, so you can see the world without your judgment.
Stand-your-ground law is a type of self-defense that gives individuals the right to use deadly force to defend themselves without any requirement to evade or retreat from a dangerous situation. However, in Florida alone at least 26 children or teens have lost their lives to the Stand Your Ground law.
The Stand-your-ground law is helping violent, racist and ignorant people bury our sons, daughters, brothers and sisters. Clearly, this law is flaw. Shooting a group of teenagers because they are playing loud
music, in the privacy of their own vehicle, is negligent and emotionally disturbing. Just to name a few, 18-year-old Carlos Mustelier was shot to death, after he and his 16-year-old friend approached Thomas
Baker jogging, and one took a swing at him. Thomas responded “You wanna play games? You wanna play games?” and fired eight shots. Equally saddening, 18-year-old Daniel Amore was stabbed by his 31 year-old guardian, Kunta Grant, after Amore punched him during a dispute.
Laws are supposed to protect the innocent, not target them. Trayvon Martin, Jordan Davis and the hundreds of other children, teens and adults deserve their taken lives. They also deserve justice for their murders. Life is not guranteed to anyone tomorrow, however it is not the privilege of anyone to take the life of someone else. Lawmakers are supposed to solve problems, not escalate them. Rick Scott was all over television when running for Governor, but now that he has won, where is he? Where is the change that Floridians needs? Where is the leader that our youth needs? The solution to many issues are not immediately apparent , but just like many Governor and lawmakers, they hide when real action needs to be made. The time to put words into actions is now.
The solution begins with you and your community. Personally, I do not know if you or your community have been affected by the Stand-your-ground law, but why wait until someone in your family or neighborhood is killed because they were simply listening to music in their car? Why elect or re-elect imposters who run and hide, instead of pushing and shoving for the change that our neighorhoods, communities, and Country needs? My real question to you, is why wait? I hope that you do not see any reason to wait to take action. The longer, you wait, we wait, the greater the issue will expand. Stand-your-ground laws have increased the vigilantes of young black males, which speaks for itself.
It's time to stop watching violent people dig ground for our loved ones that they have murdered. I apolygize for any misconceptions that any of you may have about this post. This issue is sensitive to me and I hope that after reading this post that you now have a grasp on my point: to Stand Up!
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February is Black History Month. In this No Crumb Blog post, we'll take a look at the latest milestones of Black History. If you are interested to learn more about Black History and what it means for all citizens of the United States, go here. The full time-line of Black History can be read here.
That's a great question, in which I will answer in my open letter focused on Black History this week. Stay tuned!
The word "flow" is in reference to the status quo or the norm, as to which most peoples are following because the activity is the latest trend.
Each of us are individuals. We all make our own decisions, including whether or not to go with the flow in society. The flow can range from anything from cutting of the eyebrows to using the "N" word to identify a friend, other than that of his or her name. As individuals, originality sometimes don't always make us the most popular people, especially for the youth and teens growing up in today's trend defined generation. I believe that originality is the key to self-esteem because differentiation is what brighten us individually. Mark my words: You are who you are for reason.
Rapper Soulja Boy comes to mind when it comes to designs in the eyebrows. Personally, I don't believe that there is anything wrong with trimming or getting designs in your eyebrows. I would think that it's easier for our sight (laughs).
Why the "N" word?
There are two words that should have been left in history: the N-Word and Cracker. By the way, history begins now.
More in depth, going with the flow does has its short-term benefits but anything that has a time range is not helpful to anyone's future. Wearing make-up just because your friend Jessica wear it doesn't mean that you should or your other friends should either. Notably, just because your boy Scooter wears his pants knee-deep doesn't mean you have to walk around like a fool, too. Although, some of my views are direct, I understand the challenge of being original...
There were times as a youth that I hated myself, because I felt that people didn't understand me so something was truly wrong with me. I know the feeling; it's painful. It's devastating to think about. In that stage of my life I wasn't myself, and (honestly) didn't know who I was trying to be. All I know was that I couldn't be myself because it was wrong, as if it was a sin. Sigh.
With God's hand, I've been able to discover how to love myself more than ever. Going with the flow has destroyed and damaged many great souls, don't let yours be one of them. What's really best for you is stay who you best are. There are music artist that tried to change their style to be more mainstream and now are irrelevant in the industry and elsewhere. Like John Stuart Mill once said, "Originality is the one thing which unoriginal minds cannot feel the use of."
Personal growth is always a positive sign that we're improving ourselves, whether it's our work ethic or self-esteem. I've learned in life that being a better person is a decision that I must agree to and dedicate to work towards. Further said, if you're stuck in your pride and refuse to admit to yourself that you're NOT perfect, you most likely won't be dedicated to progress as a person. Personal growth does not necessarily mean changing who you are, more so about achieving and finding your true identity. As many as of us would like to believe, we don't know who we are; just who society wants us to be.
Identity can only be discovered through experience. As you continue to be exposed to new cultures, people and ideas, you learn that the World is diversified and you being yourself is only right. The other day I was talking to a friend and he said, “My biggest problem is caring what people think about me. Once I figure out how not to care, I'll be good.” Like I told him, it's Society's problem too. When getting 100 photo likes on Facebook or Instagram is so important, you'll find many people worried about what others think of them.
On that note, personal growth is not about anyone else, but you. It doesn't matter who you are or what your story is, I know there is something that you can improve on about yourself. No, the goal is not to be perfect, but to be the best person that you possibly can be. When you strive to be perfect, you can never be great. Greatness is what you make it to be. Greatness is defined by high excellence in what you do and the level of consistency in which you use to maintain such high excellence. When you're a person of greatness, you understand that mistakes benefit you more than being pristine.
Personal Growth surely takes time to develop, but like American Businessman Bo Bennett said, “Those who improve with age embrace the power of personal growth and personal achievement and begin to replace youth with wisdom, innocence with understanding, and a lack of purpose with self-actualization.” As
a person who has undergo great amounts of growth, you have a better understanding of yourself, the world and life at large. In addition, you become wiser and more appreciative of components and people in your life.
As I close, let down your pride and master YOU. Don't get me wrong recognizing your self-worth is important, but you also have to understand that self-worth is not the one-way street to success. I've seen people have it all and lose it quickly because their inability to stay authentic, even beyond their increased wealth and fame. Grow to be stronger and wiser so when adversity and change strike, you'll still be standing as YOU.
They always say “you never know what you had until its gone,” but in reality that's not always true. Sometimes we find ourselves falling in love with a person for the wrong reasons; for say money or
for sexual affairs. Although, neither of the two are permanent or will matter down the road. The components that matter can include honesty, trust, commitment, loyalty and understanding. Those are just some of the components that establish a relationship and maintain a foundation—not money, material things or sex. Just think: if it's short-term, what advantage or benefit does it give you long-term?
Further said, honesty must be mutually practiced. If your lover has to hide some of his actions behind your back, that's not honesty. If your lover only tells you things IF you ask, is not honesty. I'm a true believer of what's done in the dark will eventually come to light. And many times the truth is forefront of our eyes but we still ignore it. Why? It's difficult to accept the truth and feel like you're not worth being
told the truth to. Basically, honesty is the root of trust. Without trust, you are fighting for a relationship that won't last or simply just short-term.
Ask most people today if their ready to settle down and the answer may be somewhat close to, “I have so much going on right now.” As shady as that sounds, there are some people that aren't suited for a relationship. Also, there are people that have personal issues that must be confronted before anything. In contrary, I believe that if a person say they love you, and want you to be their for them long-term, they have to give you what you deserve—THE commitment. Everyday we just don't fall in love with just a random person. Undoubtedly it takes a special person to win your heart.
Showing appreciation to someone you love is not difficult. It's just one of those things that you have to want to do, to do it. When it comes to love I take no excuses. You either can show me that you love me or you don't. As you can notice I didn't say “can't”. A person who complains that it's hard to show you how much they love you is phony. Keep it real, when you LOVE a person, won't you do anything for him/her? The big misconception is that appreciation can only be shown through material things—that's false! The easiest way to show how you feel or what you believe in is through your actions.
The bottom line is sometimes you are better off by yourself. If a person cannot appreciate your self worth, you can do better. If a person complains or make excuses of why they can't show you what they talk, you can do better. If you're giving more than the person, you can do better. If you're not being recognized for being by the person's side through the thick and thin, you CAN DO BETTER. The move is yours to take.
It's NEVER easy accepting the betrayal of someone you love. I tell people all the time that no matter how hard you try to avoid pain, it will always find a way to you. Whether you are a good person or the opposite of one, pain is just a part of our lives. Pain is so difficult to deal with because the effects are everlasting. If you can relate, pain have caused me to resent everything and everyone. It's like anytime you are hurt, you hate the world for it; Even though the world has nothing to do with the situation. That's not fair to the world or specifically your friends and family that actually care and love you, but resentment cause uncontrollable side effects.
I think what many of us fail to realize is that when we give our heart to someone, we risk ourselves to heartbreak. We fail to realize our own weaknesses when it comes to dealing with people in general. Also, we fail to realize that all great things have to come to an end, eventually. I think it's fair to say that it's unfair to resent giving your ex-lover a second chance. It's unfair to resent loaning a person who you knew wasn't your friend money. It's unfair to resent leaving the person who you loved, but was no good for you. Truthfully, we are all guilty of unfair resentment. The only way to learn is to live! The pain that we experience in our life will only make us stronger mentally, emotionally and wiser.
Live your life, but also learn from your life.
Like previously mentioned, pain is an component of your life that you can't run from. At some point in your life, you will experience heartbreak and other unfortunate events. The pain inflicted by those events will not be easy to deal with and confusing to understand, but just know you will be okay. Through the negativity of pain, there are lessons to be learned. It's up to you whether or not you take those lessons as your opportunities to grow; becoming stronger and wiser. You are human so of course you're going to take risks and make negligent choices, which is why resentment towards anyone or anything in your life is unfair.
The way I see it, you be completely aware of what you're getting into beforehand.
Remember Friedrich Nietzsche's quote, "I assess the power of a will by how much resistance, pain,
torture it endures and knows how to turn to its advantage,"? The advantage of pain cannot be foreseen. Your will to be resilient and not be a broken-hearted person surely will play out on its own (in your favor). In conclusion, our mistakes are to blame for some of the pain we endure but equally we are not. You nor I can make a person be loyal, honest and dependable for us like we are for them. At the end of the day, we have to be resilient and not allow pain to change who we are or what we want from life.