Should “family” be redefined?
Yes! The world, “family” should be redefined. The problem that I see today is that even family members are becoming more disconnected, because they lack to communicate and cherish each other. This is why I believe the word, “family”, is starting to become less about kinship. People are beginning to call good friends their “family”, more than their actually kin folk. Is that where our society needs to be? No! So few of us actually understand why families stayed together back in the day, or how they managed to even do it!
Family isn't always the easiest to get along with, but that doesn't mean that you run away from them because you, “don't want to' bother with them”, or you're “fed up with their drama”. Get over it. Ask yourself this: If you didn't have any family, would your life be any better? Would you rather be loved—even if it's tough love—than not be loved at all? It's time to start appreciating the people in your life and stop placing egos in places, where your hearts are supposed to be. Life is so much easier when we stop letting the past bother us. That's easier said than done—Amen! However, the first step to moving forward is leaving all excuses behind you.Being Humble
In a world where people's priorities have changed, you cannot go wrong by pampering yourself. I've found out personally that even though you show appreciation to your family and (true) friends, few will show their appreciation for you. By no way means am I saying that every holiday or celebration I demand gifts; More so, if I kick rocks for them, they should do the same for me. In this economy, I can be selfish about what and who to spend my hard-earned money on. However, I choose to be kind-hearted and grateful for everything that God has blessed for with and disperse that humbleness with those close to me.
Question: Am I wrong for being humble?
If you ask me, I can be as humble as I want to be. With that said have you ever just sat down and reflected on all the things that you have now, that you didn't have growing up? It's a great feeling, am I right? Reflections like that allow us to evaluate ourselves on our personal growth and self-humbleness towards not just material things, but life itself. At the end of the day you have to be humble with your success and not get big-headed. You came from the bottom, so why would you want to go back? If you answered logically to that question, there is no positive reason to go back. Being successful is not a bad thing, but it will become so, if you try to put your ego over the world.
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I've been teased for all sorts of things, including having a big head and even having a low, deep voice. During those times of criticism I didn't know how I should react to the things people said. I just knew that no matter how personal the verbal attacks were, I must continue to walk tall. Thinking back to those days, internally I was devastated because I didn't understand why I was such a target for people to talk about; nor did I understand why people thought I was abnormal compared to them. One would think about being different was good, but obviously it was the other way around to them. On the positive side, I learned one important thing: Be who I am.
People will judge you for being African American, homosexual, nerdy, homophobic, intelligent, and for even being successful. Why is that? For one, we as humans are afraid to accept and learn about things that we don't understand. It's one of those, “If it's not what I believe in, it's not right” type of thing. Life isn't anybody's “my way or the highway”. If one is not willing to learn about lifestyles and religions that they don't understand, then let them live as miserable as they chose to be. Personally, I am a Christian, but that doesn't mean that I dislike Catholics or any person affiliated with another religion. I let people live their life, while I live my own life.
Secondly, the thought of someone being successful and actually achieving their dreams is difficult to swallow (for some people). As mentioned earlier, I let people live their life, while I live my own life. That same sentence can apply to the principle that all people can, and should be successful. The more successful we all are, the better the economy will be; and the greater our lives will be. We have to stop marginalizing people, because we don't understand why they are the way they are, or why they live the way they do. Be real with yourself: It's none of your business how anybody lives their life. Worry about you and you only (unless you have a child and/or have a significant other).
With all of that said, be who you are. There obviously are people, even family and friends that don't understand you, but stay true to you. Yes, at times it will be very challenging. However, you will face darker obstacles than criticism. Hearing people talk about you and refer to you as “different” should be seen as a positive. Being like everybody else is not a requirement. Live your life, which means do what you want to do. If you care about what people jabber, then live that miserable life. All I'm trying to say is that it's wise to stay true to you, even beyond criticism and misunderstanding from others. When people see that their words bother you, they will continue to lower your self-esteem. Pledge to me that you want let that be, because you love who you are.
Three weeks ago I begin talking to someone, which I will call “Gummy worm” throughout this post. Until Monday, everything was perfect. The chemistry between us is amazing and the affection was beyond enjoyable. I just knew I found the one for me! Do I still think that? Yes. However, I feel that I'm vulnerable more than I've ever been. Why? I actually feel for gummy worm. It's one of those things where you notice that you're falling for someone, but is afraid to go further, as the future may not be so sweet as it is now. No, I'm not saying that in three months, we will be over each again, but more so that we may learn things about each that we didn't know
before...Then, our love nest crumble into pieces.
There are people in the society that lie about their age, who their baby daddy is, and even where they went to college. It's to the point where you have to undergo orientation with people who you talk to; Take them to the clinic to get tested for the itch, go get a lie detector test and even take a visit to the psychiatrist office for a session ( a free consultation will work). You can say that I'm exggrating, but you already know how real the thirst is. On a serious note, gummy worm didn't go through orientiation, because I felt in my heart that everything was legit; From the kisses to the words verbally expressed to me and those that weren't (but sent through a text).
See, now I'm caught up in my feelings. Hell (excuse my vocabulary), it's only been three weeks!
What is going on is that I've found someone that is different (in a good way). When you've played the game, been played, and seen
play in progress, it's easy to point out a flexer. I know how easy it is to tell someone something and they believe you. However, I also know that I must recognize the beats that my heart produce. Man, I'm not in love. It's too early to be talking all sentimental. Although, I learned something: everything that you try in your life will place you in a vulnerable position. That includes relationships, new career paths, and changes in your lifestyle. Is that good? There is no right or wrong answer. The benefits could vary for you, from that of
me or others.
I'm all for change...if it's for the a good cause; And relationships are a good cause. Therefore, I have to accept to being vulnerable, with the intention to be able to share my success and life with gummy worm. That's just what it is. The bottom line is that when you really want something, you might have to step out of your comfort zone to get it. If that's the case, just do it (if it's appropriate).
Let’s face it: life is the queen. We must be obedient to her, or our moment will always and forever be away. We have to understand that not everything happens when we want to, or how we want it to. Literally, you can say life can be the biggest butthole. And in that same sentence, you can say that life can be the best thing to ever happen to you. I don’t know about you, but I love life but then I hate her at the same time. We have this weird relationship which goes up and down, specifically Monday through Wednesday (Weird right?). I know you’re jealous of our relationship, huh? I would be too. Although I say that, life and I are together for always and forever, which is why I married her.
I married her, because:
1. I now understand her. Life is about finding your purpose and implementing that purpose into the world. I have found out quickly that when I am on the wrong path, everything goes wrong and it seems that I’m living in hell. Trust me; it’s not a pleasing experience.
2. I believe in her. No matter how bad life sucks, I believe that it will always get better. No matter the negatives of life, there are more positives to look forward to. It simple: when you believe, nothing is impossible.
3. I live with her. After living with her for all these years, I’ve learned to adjust with her flaws. Life isn’t perfect, which I am not either (or anyone else). Life isn’t always what I want it to be, however, I understand not everything can or will go my way.
4. I accept the challenge she gives me. Like I said earlier, she can be the biggest butthole (No lie!). Life will challenge you daily and I have to be ready for whatever is thrown my way. I don’t know specifically what life will throw at me, but I do know that I must be prepared for any and everything.
This post is very weird to me, but the bottom line is: your life will be so much easier if you just live life. Learn the way it works, accept the way it works, and go with it. Do what you have to do to provide for yourself. Don’t let dark days discourage you from going after your goals or stopping you from living the life that YOU WANT. Today’s message is not “Strive to Achieve Greatness
”; more like, “Live in Greatness
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Have you ever said, “It's going to come back on you,” to someone who've mistreated you? What about retaliated against them? If you have, did you feel relieved? Your response may vary from that of others, but sometimes we all find ourselves in vulnerable positions, hoping for the “best”. At times we do get the best, and at other times we get the worst. So let's say the ratio is 50/50, even though it seems more like 70/30. So, straight to the point: is retaliation even worth our time?
No, retaliation isn't worth anything but satisfaction. You're probably sitting there thinking, 'That's the whole point of it', but no my friend you have it all wrong. When people hurt you, the pain can be everlasting. Even though you forgive someone for what they did to you, you're never going to forget what they did. Why is that? You've been given a scar; One that will always weigh heavy on your heart, no matter if it's healed or not. Furthermore, develop into an wound, if you're ever hurt again. It's good to forgive, but the same cannot be said about the scars that discolor your skin.
I believe that you shouldn't allow anyone to mistreat you. However, I also believe that you shouldn't put or wish the same abuse or harm onto those who have mistreated you. In all honesty, that's difficult for me to say because the world is filled with viscous-minded and cruel people, that pray on the innocent in our communities and schools. You know what though? Personally, when you have a relationship with God, you tend to let
him handle what you wish you could. Eye-for-eye is traditional. We're living in modern society, which we must embrace.
By no way means am I telling you not to be angry. I just want you to think and live for more than retaliation. Trust me, karma does not play the radio. People who believe they are impalpable always learn otherwise. That even includes me and you. If we continue allowing people to lower our attitudes, then we are no better than they are. Retaliation is not our best option to dealing with the pain that others have enacted on us. Taking time
to heal ourselves and leaving the rest to someone else is the best option. You are better than the pain that you have or had to go through. You are also better than ignoring your values to retaliate against the ignorance and stupidity of others.
Rise above the negativity and take care of yourself. Continue to live your life and don't feel embarrassed to receive help. It's something about our kind that doesn't like to ask for help, even during our most lowest times. Allowing ourselves to quietly suffer, mentally and physically. Today, pledge not to do that to yourself anymore—as I am. You should never allow people's opinions to limit what you do in your life. After all, it is your life, right? So live it and not on anybody's else terms.
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Lately the word, “greatness” has been connected to everything involving Keandre Curry, because I'm trying to irritate you—well not exactly. See what's going on is that, “Strive to Achieve Greatness,” is my new message. I always talk about becoming successful, but didn't have a message that reflected that, until now. I believe that everyone can achieve greatness, whatever that is to them. For me, greatness defines a life filled with continued personal growth and success. The key word in there is “continued”.
Success shouldn't be limited to one goal or one dream. I have this belief that if you achieve one goal, then you can accomplish the next goal, and so forth. Meaning, if you did it once, you can do it again. However, I also believe that trying to re-accomplish something is much more difficult than it was the first time. The obstacles that you faced during the previous journey, will not be obstacles that you face the next time around. That may not be fair to you, but it is knowing the fact that life doesn't stop for nobody.
Life is like a clock: it's moving even when you're not. This may be off the subject, but that can be applied to your competition as well. While you sit around waiting for opportunities to put handed to you, your competition is doing the opposite, and going to the opportunities. To achieve greatness, you have to want it. You have to take all the necessary steps to get there. I see greatness as the next best thing....The only path that I have to travel. And the best possibility that any opportunity can give me.
Greatness can be what you want it to be. If you want to live your dream, Strive to Achieve It. If you want to live everyday not knowing if you have enough to pay your bills, then so be it. I nor anybody can tell you what is best for you. Only you know what is best for you.
With that being said, you are the one that is responsible for making sure that you give yourself the best that you deserve. It doesn't have to be,“greatness”, but don't let it be failure either. There is no excuse to be a failure. There is also no exception for believing that“ you can't”, because you can and will.
Go after your dreams, and don't let your foot off the peddle. Yes, you will face many obstacles along the way, but that's to your benefit. The more difficult something is, the more effort you tend to put into it. From personal experience, great things take the longest time to come through, which can discourage you quickly. Don't let the length to achieve your goal stop you from believing in yourself. You should always believe, because honestly there is no legit reason in the world for you not to. No matter what greatness is to you, I want you to Strive to Achieve It.
A silent heart. I don't know if that's even possible, but those are the only words that I could come up with to describe my pain and my scars. Pain from opening my heart and only getting bull crap back. Scars from trying over-and-over again; Hoping to find someone who could help heal my pain, not create a deeper wound. I was wrong, very wrong. It's amazing how you have everything going for yourself, but is overlooked for those who just want the sex and the money. I rephrase that,
it's ironic and you can even say chronic, because that's how serious it is.
Sigh. You go out everyday on a positive note, believing that not all of them are the same but
only find the truth, that they are. Man, that's a lot of reality to shallow, which is why I keep choking on it, every time. If one thing I've learned from getting my heart shattered so many times is that the pain always feels different. The more I try, the more my heart is at risk of losing it's beat,
because it's so wounded―with scars over scars. I fight everyday for what I want, so take my scars anyway you want. To me, they have been just there but today they've spoken through the grin on my face.
A speechless heart is no longer what I have. It's the core of my pain and voice for my resilient journey for love. However, today I am energy-less because I have no more force in my heart to keep going; It's just completely silent.
We all are somebody beyond our names, gender and sexuality. The actions we take in our life determines our goals, defines our character, builds our faith and pinpoint who we are not just on the outside, but inside. I think I've found out who I am and why.
I'm me because I believe in my values,
and value my beliefs.
I'm me because I speak for the voiceless,
and fight for the helpless.
I'm me because I go beyond,
the ordinary, to achieve the extraordinary.
I'm me because I look in the mirror,
not the shadow of someone else.
I'm me because I value myself,
for who I am, not that of who I am not.
Now, answer my question: who are you?
Today, the Keandre Curry Inc's identity, has officially been defined.
Keandre Curry, Inc not only share my name, but my character, beliefs and goals in life; professionally and personally. It represents the compassion I have to help others, help themselves. And the determination I have, to succeed, at being successful. At times being ambitious is irritating because you never stop. Always on the move, doing something.
I've been thinking of ways to enjoy my life more and not worry so much about my professional life, but it's tremendously difficult. It's probably the greatest challenge I'll ever face in my life. It's one of those things where you're so passionate about it, love it, that you can't let it go, even with your best effort. I'm always thinking of ways to become better at what I do, which isn't a bad thing, but can quickly become so.
To a conclusion, the Keandre Curry Inc, is the inspiration network for ordinary people; Those who have dreams, and for those who are passionate about something. Our goal is to give people inspiration they can use, everywhere in their life. Whether you're a dreamer, author, up-and-coming or a professional, the Keandre Curry Inc will be here for you, always.
Our passion, my passion, is to succeed, so let's share it together.